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Extramarital affairs are bad: Neena Gupta
What is your definition of love?
I feel the only kind of love there is is that of a mother for a child. All other relationships are out of habit.
If that is so, why do people in love feel so lovey-dovey ?
It is actually more a feeling of gratitude and habit, both of which you cannot do without either.
What has been the most romantic moment in your life?
My daughter's birth. It is the most precious moment in my life and makes me believe in love.
What's your take on extra-marital affairs?
They're very bad for everybody. The men can have fun and then leave a woman without any compunction. Also, today if one has a fight with his partner, if the woman is his wife, it is difficult for the husband to walk out. But if she is his girlfriend, he can leave her very easily.
Name the film(s) you find the most romantic.
I always enjoy watching Dev Anand-Waheeda Rehman's Guide and Dilip Kumar-Madhubala's Mughal-e-Azam.
And the most romantic book you've read?
Gone with the Wind.
When it comes to feeling love and talking about enduring relationships, you talk about the mother-child equation. But when it comes to romantic films and books, you give examples which are far removed from maternal love. Why?
I really cannot explain that. I simply go with my gut.
What keeps your relationship going?
How do you know he is the one for you?
My husband is a very good person at heart. We have the same tastes and choice. He is a family man and likes to help everyone. He is also a very intelligent man. Intelligence in a man gives me a real high.
What about sensitivity?
Well, no man is truly sensitive to a woman's needs.
Is marriage necessary?
Marriage is very important if you want to live in society.
And you are saying that?
Yes, I am saying that. Nobody knew what I had to go through.
So why didn't you marry earlier?
I did not find the right person.
Did you ever have any preconceived notions about love and marriage?
When I was younger, I never used to feel the need to get married.
What would you not forgive in love?
Never say never. Once I had thought that I would never forgive someone. But times change and you realize your feelings have more to do with circumstances than a person.
Is monogamy unnatural?
Monogamy is difficult as men have more of a roving eye because of the power they experience at all levels vis-a-vis a woman. Women are more committed because of the kids. Women's empowerment can never happen till they continue to bear children. A child compels a woman to make compromises and adjustments.
Would you rather have unrequited love or no love at all?
I really do not know.
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